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Out of the Patterns of Depression

Patterns of Depression

You can, by reading these pages, evaluate your experience and assess to what degree, if any, you follow a particular pattern that seems to lead to your problems with depression.

Patterns represent ways people organise their experience and structure their personal views of "reality". Many of the patterns we develop bring us happiness, satisfaction, a sense of purpose, and other good things. Some patterns, though, lead us to make bad choices, demonstrate socially inept behaviour, and form inadequate responses to life's problems.

The main problem for most depressed people is that they think, feel and act out of a depressed perspective that is distorted and hurtful, and then make the mistake of believing that this perspective is a given truth.

When a relationship ends painfully, they may tell themselves, "I'll never fall in love again."When they lose their job, they may think, "I'll never be able to get another job."When they respond imperfectly to a situation, they may say to themselves, "I'm an idiot."Having internal dialogue is normal. Believing the negativity, though, is unnecessary and hurtful.

It's important that you learn about the patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving that can give rise to depression. How do you do depression? What limiting decisions have you made about your life?

With THE ROAD™ you can now identify the things that you don't know how to do that lead to consequences that hurt you, and learn new ways of thinking, feeling and behaving that will help you. You can learn to avoid creating problems and you can learn to manage problems that are not of your own creation.

You can learn to step outside of your personal beliefs. Only then can you determine whether they are accurate and serve you well, or whether they are distorted and the cause of unnecessary pain.